tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824163550506408890.post4926515678672467839..comments2022-11-19T22:32:20.643+11:00Comments on Lola Constance Evelyn: One weekKristaleehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14636509405885904105noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824163550506408890.post-12569103916722806482009-07-30T11:05:59.843+10:002009-07-30T11:05:59.843+10:00Although my experience is totally different to you...Although my experience is totally different to yours, I understand how important it is to know how and why something like this happened to Lola and to you and your family. I really hope you get the answers you need.<br />The list of questions is a fantastic idea.Make it as long and detailed as you can.<br />I will be thinking of you on Tuesday. xx<br /><br />ps. thank you for your lovely message. It made me cry, in a good way :)megshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08871854552887567055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824163550506408890.post-87445859230292924002009-07-29T19:16:35.652+10:002009-07-29T19:16:35.652+10:00Thankyou ladies I feel like I have been given lots...Thankyou ladies I feel like I have been given lots of big virtual hugs xxxKristaleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14636509405885904105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824163550506408890.post-50626098447919487212009-07-29T18:39:46.245+10:002009-07-29T18:39:46.245+10:00benmaclil, that was a beautiful post.
Wow K, Tues...benmaclil, that was a beautiful post.<br /><br />Wow K, Tuesday will be a big day for you. I will be thinking of you and your family. <br /><br />Writing down your questions will help you to prepare for the appointment, even if you don't ask them all word for word. Information that you are given in the meeting will probably trigger more questions anyway, so at least you will be partially prepared. <br /><br />I have no idea about the feelings you must be going through, in the leadup to Tuesday. I can imagine that the guilt and blame is natural for anyone in the same situation. Sometimes that kind of feeling is easier to believe than big medical words or the fact that these things are completely out of your control. I don't think anyone can make you come to that realisation, but I really hope that you do get there soon.<br /><br />The love and care for your three beautiful children that shines through your words, and from your friends words, show that you would have done everything possible to produce a healthy baby. I hope you are able to reach an understanding to that end, within yourself.<br /><br />xAnnieglam-12wbthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02600509073448347509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824163550506408890.post-88985903882090197512009-07-29T17:14:46.330+10:002009-07-29T17:14:46.330+10:00Your family and Lola are always in my thoughts thr...Your family and Lola are always in my thoughts through the day. We will be sending special prayers to you all on Tuesday. I hope you are able to stop blaming yourself soon. Watching your pregnancy from the outside all I ever saw was you with a careful, watchful hand over your stomach, and a gentle rub always, you think you were less careful, but I watched your eyes light up when you spoke of having 3 children (of course it was with a nervous glint of the unknown, 3 under 4 is a tremendous effort) and you DID care through your pregnancy with Lola, you DID watch what you ate, and you did EVERYTHING the hospital asked of you. I know you are the only one to be able to stop you blaming yourself, but I hope you get to do that soon, as we all know there is nothing you did to cause this. Lola has touched so many people in a way that you probably couldn't even imagine, she is very special and even in heaven will continue to do magical things. You are the proud Mummy of 3 beautiful children, and the only thing people will expect from you and Bren is to do what you need to do in order to grieve and heal. That is all x x xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824163550506408890.post-664762110840202892009-07-29T00:29:53.054+10:002009-07-29T00:29:53.054+10:00Geez i hope they can give you some answers.
When...Geez i hope they can give you some answers. <br /><br />When i had to wait for a diagnosis i had the same feelings of guilt (champas, coffee, ciggy's) riddling my mind, how could i not?..but just hearing a result (any result) was what i was longing for and once received, it helped me sooo much and inevitably it helped E....i know our stories are different but i'm hoping you and your family can have some relief by finally knowing. For the record, i will say, don't beat yourself up please!...and now i want to punch myself in the eyeball for saying it because i know it's easy to say but soooo hard to listen to....but i still mean it ; )<br /><br />I can't tell you how many lists of questions i have! Lists were something i started making well after E's birth but if i had to do it all again...there would be mammoth lists from the second they induced me! I highly recommend writing any thoughts or questions that come to mind because it's so much harder to get them to front of mind when your trying. No matter what, you are all loved, supported and in my thoughts.<br /><br />Again, your an amazing woman and i thank you and Lola for this blog.<br /><br />Biiiiiiiiiig Hugs,<br />XXLLover of Little Thingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00239940148426620287noreply@blogger.com